Be a part of healthy relationships

In India, there is a social taboo even after the boyfriend and girlfriend term have become most common these days. There is still parents wanting to protect their children from falling into the trap. They create a cocoon and watch their children closely as if somebody is trying to harm their children anytime. This is just a fact. I am not lying. My parents are real proof. As a young woman, I know my limits. I do not cross the line my parents put. If I get married it will be an arranged marriage only.

My parents have been in a happy relationship for more than 30 years, then why can’t I be?I agree these days are different from those days. The modernised world indeed have corrupted young minds. But many do not fall into the trap. I can honestly say. Rape, gang rape, molestation, murder of young girls and woman, acid attacks are the only things we read mostly in today’s newspapers. Girls lives are threatened. So the parents of today’s girl children have more alert and alert. They know what is right , what is wrong?They are like a night watchman to their children. If their children ask for a cellphone that too android phone, they ask too many questions. Their children must answer it.

The boys cannot win the love of a protected girl children. They can just be a friend to them not a boy friend OR can I say they are just a half boyfriend may be to be precise. Girl children means a lot to the parents. They care for them, they are the world to them. If their girls lives are shattered they live like a corpse.

Half girlfriend is not a bad word. It’s a good word actually. Boys get friendship and he is satisfied. It may be jeopardized only when the boy cross his limits. Where there is a will, there is a way. Half boyfriend or half girlfriend is a good step taken by the boys and girls of today. It is a healthy culture. This culture must continue in the next century too and be successful. Parents should be proud of their children not be abashed about their girls and boys. I am honestly of the opinion, boys and girls can be friends not lovers. I have seen in soap operas and even in many movies. So why can’t it be successful in real life? Am I correct? If I am wrong please do correct me. In Big Bang theory, an English soap opera, the character Sheldon Cooper calls his girlfriend “A FRIEND WHO IS A GIRL”. I hope you all got it by now.


Meaning of Half girlfriend-my experience

I have never been in a half relationship but have witnessed many. Half girlfriend means a girl or a woman not really into the man but does not like him the way the boy wants. I mean like a lover. He is just a friend to him, a girl friend. I was always skeptical about such relationships. When I was studying in Bishop Heber College (it’s a co-ed college)  where girls casually speak with boys. I did my masters degree there. I was not always comfortable speaking to guys. So spoke less.

One of the boy in my class loved me and always spoke to me and messaged me in my Facebook account. I did not mind his advances. But did not reply to him after a fight began in FB account where everyone in my FB account watched it and my classmates indirectly teased. Here I want to stress everything was fine before I spoke to him. He spoke nicely and behaved well when I first met him. We did not talk during the college timings. Only on FB we spoked. Period. Why did he have to misuse me for his needs? Am I a puppet? He is a north Indian while I am south Indian and also he is two years younger than me. If he has thought I am his girlfriend then he is wrong. I just quit the college in my second year because of two guys. I discontinued my studies and did not write the correspondence course exam in 2015. My life wasted.I was Half girlfirend to him.

Another such incident happened in my own class. There was this girl and a boy who dated since their school days. They also go to same church. Their families knew their love story. They have accepted them. But what was wrong was the boy one day not able to tolerate the girl’s doings which I don’t know as I quit the college beated her and she fainted there itself. This relationship I name it as Half girlfriend.

Every single day we see in divorce courts many couples standing against each other, abusing each other, say as many bad things about each other and what else, everything is over between them in the court itself. Their relationship is over. What happened to them?If it’s an arranged marriage where did the parents went wrong?If it is a love marriage what is this bullshit?Is that what they did,love? It is pure lust or call it infatuation. Half girlfriend means half girlfriend. The one you cannot marry but have her as a friend, a girl friend or a friend they are infatuated. This is better than marriage.I now ask you people who read this, Am I right or wrong?


More successful than they think

What can I say? I am a female in India, currently unemployed but searching for a new job. Are you thinking the whole day I am free? No. I win the day by helping my mother in her daily chores and browse through the Internet for some freelancing gigs. I am always successful in getting gigs online.

Being an Indian, I get online vouchers by answering surveys on Panel station and browse through google for free samples to try out in India. I am always successful. Sometimes I fail too but the thirst for winning doesn’t stop me. I win, I lose. The game is ridiculously funny but it is worth it.

I got lot of vouchers by entering various contests. It takes care of my day to day needs. Being an Indian has its own advantages and disadvantages. I do not want to concentrate on the disadvantages. So let me just concentrate on the best part of being an Indian.There are so many opportunities in the job sector too for us especially if you are a female employee you get a cab free ride to your house. You are picked up from your house and dropped too. This facility cannot be found in any other country as far as I am aware. Although in some foreign countries, female employees have their own cars, it will not be a enjoyable ride.

In India, there are lots of opportunities in the IT sector and BPO sector. More and more people are getting hired daily. I am also looking for such opportunities right now and hope to win in the growing sector. Meanwhile, I want to pray to God for giving me two wonderful persons who I call mom and dad. Can’t be more thankful.

More Indian than you think is an impressive statement that defines our country but it best suits Lufthansa more. The foreigners competitive nature with Indians amuses me. We are a developing nation but they are developed country. It indeed makes me proud of our country. I guess this means Indians are more intelligent than them.#MoreIndianThanYouThink

Well informed, well experienced

All religions practiced, almost all languages spoken in the country

Why I like India more than any other country is that there are almost all religions being practiced in India, more than 50 languages spoken in the country. Have you or anyone seen in a totally foreign country like this feature?. The answer is a no. Hence, I proudly say this, I am fortunate to know this country, and born in this lovable country.

India is one nation which welcomes almost all nation’s people and also welcomes them with open arms. I am glad that this is something a foreign country lacks. After Donald Trump became president in United States of America, Indians lives have been threatened. I heard that two Indians were killed because of racist attacks. All thanks to God this kind of bullshit does not happen in India exception goes to when we forget northeast people are also Indians like us.

My success story-Indian way of thinking

I worked in a particular company which I don’t want to name, a fellow employee verbally abused me. I am a new joinee. So I didn’t know how to react. I just took my bag and boldly walked towards the door and said goodbye once for all. The company called me asked what is the reason, I said I will not be a part of a company where I am not respected. That’s it. I consider this as my success story. I will get job in another company because I believe in my talents. Respect is more important than money.

Why I like India?

Honestly I am very fortunate to have born in India. This alone doesn’t qualify for liking one of my favourite country ,India after South Korea. The culture, the surroundings, the people, my relatives have all gifted me that I am indeed blessed to have been born in the country. But the only thing that bothers me is that both uneducated as well as educated people throw plastic bags, water bottles after its use and also spit on the road.Will they do it in their home?A big no. Accelerating crime rates are alarming.

Baby steps contributes to my success

Indian way of thinking is definitely a contributor to success. I take careful moves, cautious enough not to decide anything immediately, I think twice before accepting anything, I hear daily news, we are all well informed or half informed but sometimes we ignore the most important thing, “United we stand, Divided we fall”. All Indians are my brothers and sisters. Instead of joking whom to marry if all are my brothers and sisters, we should concentrate on becoming more human. Murder, rape, gang rape, etc arise so the subject civics in schools must be rewrote and laws must be stringent to those who commit such crimes. Yesterday, I read a post where a 12 year old tried to rape a 3 year old girl. Now see where India is going? The kids are no more kids anymore.

I will cite more examples. A grand father raped his own grand daughter in North India. What is the punishment for these kind of sick people? India will be considered a developed nation, if all men respect women and think they are like their own blood.Kids in India must be taught about “Good touch and bad touch” to lay a solid foundation for a brighter tomorrow.

What I think about Lufthansa?

I appreciate Lufthansa for their flight service campaign “More Indian than you think” as well as their effort to bring up such beautiful ideas to attract international and national customers. India’s growing global influence in Lufthansa is good to know. Keep it up. My only advice for Lufthansa is that they should protect Air hostesses from sexual abuse from indecent men. Why I say this is because it has happened before and it can happen again.#MoreIndianThanYouThink.

My lovely trip-Alapuzha boat house and bungalow, Holiday Inn Cochin

How can I forget such a memorable day of my life? We (Our whole family from my mother’s side) travelled to Kerala, my grandmother’s birth place. My granny’s house is also in Kerala. Now it belongs to some body else because my great grand parents sold their house around the time of my grandparents marriage. Even though it was like that, we asked permission from the people who stay now at her then house, it was all a pleasant moment for us all. My mother lived in Kerala when she was still 3 years old, so she told bits and pieces she remembers about Kerala.

First when we landed on Kerala in a bus(first by train), we were astounded by less traffic. Compared to other south Indian states, Kerala is a clean state. I certify that. I can confidently argue about it. I also think crime rates are much lower than other states . I may be wrong as I have visited this place only once.

We went to a hotel after landing by bus. We ordered food. Ate and saw my grandmother’s house. The people who live in her house are all nice people. They treated us well. Gave juices. Then we went to the school in which my grandmother studies. Here I want to say something, my grandmother was so intelligent she was promoted to third standard before studying second standard. How can she not? She gave birth to eight children and handled all children quite well and all are in good positions in the society.

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Then we went to churches and prayed our stay is good and we return safely.We boarded the same bus throughout the Kerala trip. Then as planned my unlce rented a bungalow for four days stay. We also went to Alapuzha boat house and enjoyed the trip. We were all happy throughout the stay. I don’t know about others but I enjoyed and had fun so much. Believe it or not our whole family (mother’s side) enjoyed the trip. Some lived abroad but because of this trip they came to South India. What I did not like in the trip was the rice they served. It was so big. I did not like it all. But I loved the chicken and fish served in the Bungalow. Boat house food was okay. I am not a fan of it.

If anyone of you reading this post is thinking about a greenery place, you should visit Kerala. At last Cochin, how can I forget, another boat trip. They sold many things there. It was like a shopping place. So my dear readers, Kerala is famous for many things but if you want peace visit Kerala once. I found it there.

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My loving jugs

After writing a post about my sister being my Jug , now I want to stress that why my parents , relatives and colleagues are also jugs. I will start with my mother. My mother is a very patient woman who never gets angry. My sister gets angry. The only person who can calm her down is my mother. She will not listen to my father and myself telling her to keep quiet. I rarely get angry like my sister if I do get angry, my sister and mother will be the one to calm me down. Within seconds, I will calm down.

When I was studying 10th std, my mother and father drew diagrams in my record notes. I am very thankful for it. I got full marks in my practical exam and I thank them wholeheartedly for their immense help. It is not two or three diagrams. It is more than 40 diagrams. That is why I will always give my salary to these two great people.

My father is my jug because he always helped me in studying this tough paper, maths until my 10th std. I struggled with maths even though I went to a tuition centre it did not help. So he was always there to help. He shouldered responsibility to teach me maths.

He is a retired bank officer but still he goes to banks and helps the current bank manager. Who will do that? Did anybody ask him? No. Nothing. He just went to the Punjab National Branch which is near our house and helps the current bank manager. After the demonetization of five hundred rupees notes and thousand rupees notes, his help was much appreciated in the office. He was duly respected by the employees of the bank.

Sometimes, we think friends are our family. I have heard many people say that they wish their friends to be their family but do not realize that it is because of their family giving birth to them they have met their loving friends. So they should first be thankful to their families then their friends for their friendship.

At present I am working in a Pre-press company and the colleagues here are very friendly towards me. They are all good people and I wish God for their good health.

My grandparents, parents, my sister, cousin sisters and cousin brothers, nieces and nephews, colleagues, all make good jugs. If not for them , I would not be writing this article.

Hence  I thank each one of them wholeheartedly and wish goodness fill our home and their homes. I would be very happy if God blesses our house and their house with abundant love and prosperity. May God bless you for reading this post.

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My Jug

My sister is my loving jug because she listens to my pointless stories with utmost patience. She will never say a mean word though if my story is boring. She will give me life lessons and you know what she is just two and half years younger than me. We are planning to celebrate her birthday which comes in January in a most memorable way. Although I am very sociable after talking to some so called friends and learning about their bad nature or bad side of them, I will cut their friendship within a blink of an eye. I value good companies more than bad companies.

Once I was studying in school, I had a friend who will always lie about not learning for tests. I will believe her but when after writing the test, her score will be higher than what I expected. She will tell many lies regarding studies. She will call up everyday and go on and on about how to study for exams. I will tell her to go easy but she would not but when the results come she would have gotten more than 80% score. She is a big liar. This is why I never spoke in my school days. I am a very silent kind of person. All the teachers asked me to speak and be friendly with other friends but for me honesty and integrity matters more in a relationship.

When I was studying my 12th std, I met a girl who is a big dreamer. She always tells lies and builds up stories that she has two big brothers but her mom and dad gave them up because of their poverty. She kept on lying and lying and I could not stop her because with whom I will eat for lunch?

Then another girl I met in college. First all went very well until she texted me with an unknown number disguising herself as a guy. I was so shocked at her behavior. I cut her friendship (first year in college, I was friends with her for only five months) by directly telling her that I do not like her behavior and warned her not to do this with others. Even though she did this for fun, I got a heart attack figuring out whom and how did a guy got my number. I was also not on Facebook that time. I told all my classmates about her mischief.

That is why I strongly argue that sisters are God’s own gift to replace fake friends. My sister is a wonderful person to get to know with. She always gives advises and she taught me many things about life in general. It is as if she instinctively knows about people. I am glad I found a friend in her.

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