Sometimes we make decisions without thinking about the consequences but they hold great value today. I had a crush on this guy. He did his MSW in my college and he was my senior. I sent him a friend request on facebook without learning about his background. As I naturally like social workers, I just gave a request without analysing the pro’s and con’s. Why I am saying is, there is a good reason. You will learn soon.
As he had already more than 1000 friends, I thought he wouldn’t talk to me but he wanted to learn about me. He thought, I am a ‘he’ which was dowright right stupid. My first name and my last name in Facebook previously would have confused him I believe.
He asked me lot of questions about me which I answered truly. I gave him lot of signals telling him that I really like him but he always kept a distance and talked to me in a genuine way indicating he considers me as his sister. He is my first crush who I liked for his decent character. Sadly, there was a classmate in my college who was his family friend. I did not know that she was crushing on him too and I could see very well, she did not like me talking to him often. So I backed off. Even then my life became hell in college.
Why did I give this guy a friend request? One facebook request turned my life upside down. This girl became dangerous day by day I can see it. But I talked to her politely because the mistake was mine. I was the one who gave him friend request without knowing they are related. So she used this against me and asked lot of favors from me in college without being ashamed.
I did them wholeheartedly because I felt guilty and also I was sure that she will make my life a mess as she was that kind of person and tell the class about it. She already did damage my life.
Though this guy is on the slim side and this girl who is his family friend is on the fat side, I thought they will marry eventually. She was crushing on him so much. I have seen her comments on his facebook profile. Due to circumstances, I deleted the account.
After three years, I gave him a friend request. He has married another person not her. I searched this girl on facebook and she is nowhere to be found. It was a super duper blockbuster experience. When I think about it, just because I liked this guy, this girl used it against me and took advantage me plenty of times. I started hating him so much whenever I was forced to help her.
No hard feelings today. I am extrmely happy that he did not marry her. If he married her, his life would have become a nightmare. She will keep on suffocating him by demanding lot of things like she did with me. Now I feel I should not have encouraged her to use me. It was one of the great lesson the world taught me. Now he is not my Facebook friend as I think he will never become my true friend as he already has bulk of friends.
I am happy for the wrong choices I made. Without them, I wouldn’t have known what the right choices are. He is a brother I wish I had. His name is synonym to True gentleman. He works in World Vision India and I am happy for him that he is helping the unfortunate. Love the world for teaching me life lessons that I will cherish as long as I live.